Being Angry

I hardly ever get angry. I am very even tempered and mild mannered but, as part of my healing process, it was suggested I write an angry letter to Jill. This letter is not meant to be sent but the exercise is intended to get so me of the angry feelings out there in a healthy way. Acknowledging your emotions is a healthy way to deal with any kind of trauma. I’m certainly not happy angry and I don’t feel like myself when I am but I just need to keep telling myself that anger is a natural response and direct it in an appropriate way

I read somewhere that "Your feelings are going to be overpowering sometimes, but I think people are much worse off if they don't let those feelings rage through their bodies. You have to rage, pounding your fists. You have to scream, whine, moan, and complain to your nearest and dearest friends; you have to do whatever you can to let it pass through your system."

Divorce brings an abrupt end to things that you thought were good, right, and secure in your life. Now you aren't sure which parts of your married life were real and which parts were only illusions. You are not wrong to feel anger.  Justified anger can be a good and necessary response.”

It’s nice to read that and know that I am taking the right steps to be me again.

I wrote the letter and did feel a little better.   The anger is still there and will be for a while but I am taking steps to express it in a healthy way and work my way towards forgiving Jill which is the ultimate goal.

Thanks for reading

-Jay